How Men and Women Differ - Pt 2

Is fidelity an ascribed gender characteristic? Do men really have a higher propensity to cheat?

I don’t know the answers, neither am I concerned with it. What I do know is that I have a phonebook with enough empirical evidence – none on speed dial thankfully – to prove that women will cheat on their partners, even when they are in love.

A paramount aspect in the deconstruction of the premise of fidelity and gender, lies in the probe of the driving mechanics behind every blemish in mankind’s fall to temptations. Simplistically put; why do people cheat.

For men, the ownership of a penis is a biological excuse to proxy the chastising of societal myopia on sexual liberty. Men have a penis, which drains blood from the brain to the penis in several instances, attributed usually by, short skirts, cleavages, hot women in body hugging latex or maybe in some parts of the world, the rear end view of a sheep.

When men see a hot woman, the thought process runs through a stimulus of varying questions. They think,

1. I wonder how it feels like to be in bed with her
2. Does she blow well?
3. I wonder if she licks ass
4. I wonder if we have to spoon after sex

When women see a hot man, they think,

1. I wonder if he has a nice personality

Yes, it sucks not to have a penis. It’s a generalization of a sample population I know, because I do have female friends who are primarily concern with more pressing issues like penis length, girth and wash board abs. And similarly I do have male friends who are also concerned with trivial stuff like character and compatibility, things that only prove to me they are gay.

Inversely, women are much more into details when it comes to sex. I’ve sat through many sex talk sessions with my female friends and I realize women divulge a lot more than men do. Here are some of the things they ask,

1. “Was he good?”
2. The size of the penis
3. “Does he kiss well?”
4. “What did you do after sex?”
5. “When?? How?? Why??” All these usually start with, “Oh my gawd!”

Men keep it simple.

1. “Was it a good fuck?”

Men don’t really want to hear details of their friend fucking some other chick, more so if it’s a hot chick. They are also not genuinely interested to know if that girl was great in bed, what they really want to know, is if they can score as well.

Cheating.

Men never really need a reason to cheat. We cheat for a multitude of reasons. Manchester United just lost, we celebrate, so we cheat. That girl has bigger boobs, we cheat. Some freelance prostitute is giving a discount, we cheat. We drink, we cheat. It’s Friday, we cheat.

Do I believe that men are more prone to cheating because having a penis is a biological default for higher propensity for infidelity? No. If you've seen the number of women I know who have cheated – or still cheating - on their boyfriends, you will buy my “Stay single. Don’t get cheated on.” T-shirts.

Men, women, we all cheat. Temptations are created for humanity to fall. What fun is there if no one falters?

The difference is that when men cheat, they think they won’t get caught, while women cheat and blame it on men. It’s never ever really just their fault.

Well I’m sure women have truly validated reasons to cheat, besides a gratuitous revenge fuck or one too many champagnes. I am actually curious to venture into some depth to understand the female psyche beyond the superficial reasoning of emotions. Is there actually one?

Now you have me for an audience. Thrill me…